When someone trusts you with their story, the most powerful thing you can offer is to believe them. Here’s how to be the support a survivor needs.
“I believe you” and “this wasn’t your fault” are the two most healing sentences a survivor can hear. Lead with them.
Let them share at their pace. Don’t press for details or ask questions that sound like doubt.
Resist the urge to fix everything or decide for them. Restoring their sense of control is part of healing.
“Can I sit with you while you call the hotline?” is more useful than “let me know if you need anything.”
Supporting a survivor is heavy. The RAINN hotline also helps friends and family.
A gentle reminder: laws and timelines differ by state, and they’ve been changing in survivors’ favor. See your options by state, or simply reach out — there’s no cost and no obligation.
Rarely. Many states have extended or removed time limits, and survivors come forward and find justice years or decades later. When you feel ready, it’s worth learning your specific options — it’s free to ask.
No. Reporting is always your choice, and you can find support or pursue a civil claim without a police report or any criminal case.
No. Hotlines are free, and survivor-focused attorneys consult for free and work on contingency, so understanding your options never costs you anything.
Share only what feels okay. We’ll gently connect you with confidential support — no pressure, no cost.
Someone caring will reach out within a day. If you need to talk now, RAINN is here 24/7 at 800-656-4673.